It’s slightly offensive to think you have an adept ability to figure out who is Gay/Bi and who’s not. Is there a training school you can enroll in to help you harness those abilities or are you just THAT insensitive? We all don’t act the same. We all don’t look the same. We all don’t dress the same. We all don’t have the same interests. We all don’t like Beyonce. We all don’t watch Rupaul’s Drag Race. We all don’t know how to walk like Naomi Campbell. We all don’t know how to give you fashion advice. We all don’t use the word “GUUURRRRLLLL” at the beginning of every sentence. We all don’t say “YAAAAASSSS” and HONEY” at the end of every sentence.
We’re also not obligated to share our sexuality with you. Yes, it’s true there are some proud, out gay men and women in the world, but it’s very rude to blatantly ask someone if they’re gay. Especially, if you don’t know them or just met them.
I’ve met girls who think that once they find out I’m homosexual, now we can be besties because we get to talk about boys and I get to say all these unconventional “gay remarks” that make her laugh and go home to tell her family and friends ‘how hilarious her new gay friend is’.
Gays are not a science experiment. There isn’t a quadratic formula that needs to be solved in order for you to know who’s gay and who’s not.
X - y(142 x 12) = A GAY
And to all the Gay men. Stop making other men’s sexuality the topic of conversation with your female friends. Just because you know Tom, Dick and Harry are gay doesn’t mean you have the right to tell other people. Whether DL, discreet or on a need-to-know basis, you have NO RIGHT to reveal other people’s preferences.
Stop assuming that just because a heterosexual guy is being nice to you or enjoys your company that he’s secretly gay and wants to get with you. NEWSFLASH: A lot of heterosexual men are just comfortable in their skin, they don’t see an issue with having a gay friend. So stop assuming and don’t share your weird assumptions with your friends because that’s not fair to him/her. That conversation is almost like when tabloid magazines make up stories about celebrities based off a picture that was taken of the person in a compromising or weird position.