I'm here telling you to lovingly "Get the fuck over it". Don't you EVER Forget what happened, but to be hung up on it heavily still? No. Many of the people you will encounter, racist or not, black or white, NEVER had ANY hand in this at all. We are on children now, grand children, and great grandchildren of people who did these horrific crimes. I mean, it'd be as pathetic as the jews walking around and blaming every german and german decscendant for the holocoust.
And with that you bird ass honkey ANON, I’m going to tell you to lovingly FUCK OFF. Do not come into my inbox attempting to patronize me.
I ain’t hung up on a damned thing. But my great grandfather, my grandmothers grandaddy, was hung up on a tree bitch. I wish I could fucking forget. That’s my fucking history. I wish that shit DIDN’T HAPPEN! HOW DARE YOU!?! White people DO have a hand in every single crime against people of color/Black people when they continue to holds the reigns in this country. The reigns that they fucking stole from people of color and like to act like they never did. You are a product of your past. The blood is on your hands STILL. Is it directly your fault, maybe not (*clears throat* YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME), but you continue to benefit from it. I hope you’re comprehending what you’re reading right now. Just incase you aren’t read that last sentence again! And you CHOOSE to continue to benefit from it. And lets get some shit VERY clear: WHITE PEOPLE WOULD NOT BE WHERE THEY ARE IN THIS GODFORSAKEN SHITHOLE OF A COUNTRY IF IT WERENT FOR THE BACKS OF PEOPLE OF COLOR THAT YOU RODE IN ON AND ABUSED. You want to be mad because Black people refuse to forget that you raped, tortured, and massacred people since the beginning of time, you goddamn leech? Maybe you should encourage your fellow honkies to stop doing that now…Idk thats a radical thought. Take a look at institutional racism! Take a look at inequality in the workplace! Take a look at unjust laws that are designed to victimize Black men! The prison industrial complex! You still have white people sterilizing people of color in the 21st century just because they are PEOPLE OF COLOR?!?!?!!!!!!!! You think people are talking about these issues for our own fucking health? You probably do, who am I kidding…
In short, no. I will never get over it. And I will never forget. And as long as I have breath in my Black ass body I will not stop talking about it. When you stop, I’ll stop. How about that? When you (as in white people) stop benefiting from a racist and sexist agenda, when you (white people) stop believing horrible stereotypes about black people, and honestly actually see me as the badass woman that I am and not JUST a black woman, then we can talk about somebody getting over some shit. When shit like Kerry Washington being the lead in a prime time drama isn’t a BIG DEAL then we can fucking talk.
AND STOP COMPARING THE RACIST AND SYSTEMATIC OPPRESSION OF BLACK PEOPLE TO THE JEWISH HOLOCAUST! It would be a completely different (his)story had equality ACTUALLY been achieved when the Emancipation Proclamation was signed.
THERE ARE ONLY 1,426 BILLIONAIRES IN THE WORLD. OUT OF ALL THOSE PEOPLE, ONLY SEVEN OF THEM ARE BLACK. OPRAH RANKS AT #503 ON THE LIST AND SHE IS ALSO THE ONLY BLACK BILLIONAIRE IN AMERICA. I FOUND THIS VERY INTERESTING TO READ.
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.